People lie for all sorts of reasons – to protect themselves, or others’ feelings, to big themselves up, or for personal gain and occasionally for the benefit of others.
We all like to THINK that we’re honest, but most of us lie without even thinking and if you believe you’re one of the exceptions, read on.
1. Our weight
This is more of a female fib than a male one. Ask a woman her weight and she’ll deduct half a stone or a lot more depending on where her BMI should be. Thing is, guessing someone’s weight is not that difficult and no baggy jumper is going to hide the reality. Admit it, then do something about it if it’s bothering you.
2. Sexual partners
OK, no-one over the age of 16 should ever ask this question anyway. I mean some people have been single for most of their lives. But any answer will be the wrong one. If you’ve had just the one, they’ll wonder what’s wrong with you. If you admit to 30 before the age of 25, you may get a one night stand and not much else. Keep schtum!
3. If I ignore it, it will go away
Procrastination may help us avoid hard truths in the short term. But reality has a nasty habit of catching up and quite often the longer you leave it, the worse it will get. Face up to things and stop being a wimp!
4. I’m too young, or too old
At age five, Mozart was already competent on keyboard and violin, and at 76, Nelson Mandela became president of South Africa. The truth is you are never too young or too old. Don’t listen to your inner doubter!
5. I don’t judge people
We all judge people. It’s a natural human reaction. Researchers say we arrive at our first conclusion in a tenth of a second. Before we’ve even opened our mouths. In some cases, it’s ourselves we’re judging, seeing how we measure up and fit in. As mentioned above, no-one’s perfect and dissing someone else isn’t going to make you feel any better about your life. Be kind!
6. I have to be perfect
Even if perfection were achievable, it’s not a healthy goal. Mistakes are part of being human — and sometimes they’re our most valuable teachers. Besides, no-one likes little Miss or Master Perfect.
7. Your friend’s outfit
We’ve all been there and bridesmaids’ dresses are the killer. I mean does anyone over 30 look good in a bridesmaid’s dress? So she waltzes out of the changing room in a shimmery, off-the-shoulder creation in ….dark green (winter wedding) and you want to say she looks like a beanstalk but instead go: “Wow! Looks amazing. Bottle green is so your colour.” What else can you do? That bride won’t change her colour scheme for anyone.
8. How much did it cost?
Again, tends to be women who can’t seem to tell the truth when it comes to the price of clothing. Like weight, we lop off at least £20 for a mid-range priced item and £100 for designer wear.
9. My life is harder than anyone else’s
Everyone faces difficulty and crisis. It is in dealing with every challenge, problem and difficulty that we are able to develop. One person’s meltdown may be another’s minor problem. Comparing achieves nothing.
10. I’m fine
Depends on the tone of voice that accompanies this. If it’s tinged with irritation, you’re in the dog house. If it comes with a steely, unblinking stare that sends shivers down your spine, run! Fine, is never fine.